Years ago, the thought of older women dating younger men was considered taboo. We’re not entirely sure why, as older men who date women decades younger have always been completely accepted. In fact, men who leave their wives to hook up with a younger babe has become a fairly common occurrence during this century, leaving mature women out in the cold for mates. It’s no longer easy in terms of dating or finding potential relationships with men in their own age group.
Thank goodness for female celebrities who simply have not cared what others thought and became publicized “cougars” as they have done a lot to change the old stereotypes. Sharon Stone, JLo, Eva Longoria and Halle Berry date who they want, when they want and don’t give it another thought and all of them have been in relationships with younger men.
It is likely that the advent of injectables and other anti-aging treatments have helped change the tides, because within the last decade, younger men are flocking to and seeking older, more mature women.
It’s a phenomenon that is growing like wildfire and is going to change the playing field for good. Older men and more traditional adults don’t understand it. But after researching the topic, we found there are definitely great reasons that so many younger men are looking to find and date a more mature woman. Take a look at our newly created list and see if you agree.
10. Confidence is Sexy
Confidence is sexy at any age, however most younger women just don’t have it. Why? Because younger women are still at the stage of feeling they have to compete and compare themselves to all of the gorgeous models, entertainers and celebrities that are plastered on the internet, magazines, television and just about anywhere they turn. It’s not easy being a younger woman.
The older woman has been through it all – marriage, kids, job advancement, etc. – and has stopped worrying about what place they might come in, should there be a “Who’s the Hottest” contest. They simply do their best and know their best is good enough. For the younger guy, this is highly sexy. They know they won’t have to combat the faltering self-image of so many younger women or have to constantly worry about saying anything that might make them jealous.
9. Young-Looking Cougars
With today’s multitude of anti-aging treatments, it’s no wonder you can’t tell anyone’s age, particularly those who have been indulging in them for a few years. Gone are forehead frown lines, crow’s feet and blotchy skin. Sixty-year-olds look like they are fifty something and women in their fifties are now easily passing for 40-plus-year-olds. We have finally entered the age of agelessness, at least in terms of appearance.
Younger men no longer feel like they are dating their mothers when they become enraptured with an older woman and the older woman knows they’ve got it going on and are proud to flaunt it.
8. Sexually Experienced
We think of men as the gender that has been brought up to be in control, have all the answers and know all the moves. The truth is, many men have not had the uber experiences they’d like us to believe.
In fact, some younger men are looking for a cougar who can help train them to understand what a woman wants sexually and exactly how to do it. A hot, older woman is going to surely provide an advantage from her prior years of sexual activity and will be more than happy to teach their younger lover what they want.
7. No Biological Clock Ticking
Male millennials and guys from Generation Y (born between 1980s and 2000) are different than the previous generations of males who were expected to get married and start a family before the age of 35. Many of the younger men just want to have fun for a few years and don’t want to be pressured into anything, let alone settling down and raising a family.
After all, many of them are still working off enormous student loans, establishing themselves in their careers and learning how to be a responsible adult. An obvious advantage of dating an older woman is that she has already passed all of those stages and is in it for the time being, without having a long term goal.
6. Not Looking for Deeper Meaning
Older women are much more realistic about and interested in having relationships with no real end goal. Generally, they have “been there, done that”, and no longer care about having a relationship that includes future dreams.
Many younger men are attracted to women who are interested in taking it day-by-day, both sexually and otherwise. It’s not that older women aren’t deep or that they are avoiding attachment, it’s just that they are more likely to be ready for a less-involved relationship and won’t fall apart if things don’t work out.
5. Enjoys Sex
Not only does an older woman have more experience in the bedroom, she is much more apt to enjoy sexual experiences and let loose. Inhibitions were released long before in her earlier life and she now knows that being with someone can be all about fun and enjoyment without a lot of serious buzz kill.
She may, of course, also enjoy the younger man’s company and vice versa, but sexually she is eager and ready. Younger men have figured this out and know the sheer advantage an older woman brings to the bedroom.
4. Sexual Communication
Younger men and women are often shy about communicating their needs in a relationship, especially in the bedroom. This can be frustrating as each partner can be faking maximum sexual enjoyment and dancing around issues that need to be revealed and discussed.
Usually, younger men and women are are too shy to communicate his or her every day needs, let alone their sexual desires. Women who are older are much more interested in making sure they reach the big O, as well as making sure their younger man is sated and that is a huge attraction.
3. Less Pressure
In general, men have a lot of pressure to perform, make money, be romantic and keep a woman in gifts and praise. For a young man, these expectations can be very intimidating and increase performance anxiety.
It therefore makes sense that being with an older woman would eliminate a great deal of pressure, as she is going to help pay for things, be less interested in romance and more easily involved in making sure she is pleased during sex. Less pressure means more enjoyment, after all.
Having a gorgeous older woman want to spend time with a younger man is an enormous ego boost to the latter. He understands that she could be with anyone in her own age bracket – or so he thinks – and she chose him. A confidence booster like that does wonders for sexual performance and overall self-esteem.
Even if the woman is not considered gorgeous, he realizes he is still a very lucky man. The entire experience will, most likely, push him to new heights. He is likely to become a new, more mature man in so many different ways.
1. They Know What Men Want
One of the biggest draws of dating an older woman is they really know their way around a bedroom. They know what men like and want and no longer have inhibitions about demonstrating their knowledge. In fact, an older woman will have more sexual knowledge about what he might love than he does. After all, he may be still learning his own sexual likes, dislikes and preferences.
His unspoken hope is that she is Mrs. Robinson who will teach him anything and everything, so he has practical takeaways when they stop seeing one another. He will also be hoping that his older teacher will be interested in showing him how and when to use stimulants, like sex toys. In the back of his mind, he is hoping he walks away being the perfect stud muffin.