Saying that sharing your life with
someone is a big deal; is an understatement. The enormity of the matter is beyond that. You’re living your life comfortably, your own way, on your own terms one day, and then you’re supposed to spend the rest of your days with someone else. You know you love her; why else would you even consider marriage. You’ve probably been living together or at least stayed over a couple of times, and you loved every bit of it. But as you think of making the whole thing permanent; panic attack! You’re worried that things might change for the worse if you get married, or if you’d be able to adjust to the new living situation or not, or a whole bunch of other qualms.
Following are signs that should rid you of all the doubts you have about marrying her. Let’s begin.
1. You share similar values
She doesn’t necessarily have to be on board with everything, unless you’re living in a perfect world, which you’re not. She doesn’t have to agree with you on everything, but there are things you two should definitely have in common; your values. Religion, humanity, family, friends, and goals among other things that you hold in utmost importance. It’s going to be really difficult to live with someone who doesn’t share the same basic values as you.
2. She not only gets you, but is your biggest supporter as well
She knows what you want from life and your relationship. She understands and believes in your vision. You can always count on her to be there for you till you achieve your goals and of course even after that. Her confidence in you washes away any doubts that you might have. She realises your struggle, and compromises without complaining.
3. She respects you
That doesn’t mean she has to oblige with everything you ask of her, or she has to blindly agree with everything you say. It simply means that she holds you and your opinions in high regard. Nothing you say goes unnoticed. She’d consider what you want, or what you say, but at the same time, she’s allowed to make her own decisions and do what’s best for her.
Additionally, she never ridicules you in anyway. You could have the craziest of dreams, and all you’ll get from her is support. Even if there is criticism, it’s going to be constructive.
4. She isn’t unnecessarily self-absorbed
One simply can’t stand being around someone whose life is fixated on themselves alone. You’d be better off living on your own than having to spend all your life with such a person. With self-preservation comes selfishness. But if there’s one thing that loving someone teaches you; it’s selflessness. You can’t suppress your instincts, but you naturally think of the people you love even before yourself at times. She should be willing to make the necessary sacrifices for the relationship, and so should you.
5. Your relationship tops her priority list
If you need her, she’s going to drop everything else and be there for you. She makes time for you and is attentive. You’re the single most important person in her life, and she never fails to show you that. She never neglects your needs and even when she has a lot going on, the relationship never takes a backseat.
6. She is everything to you
She’s the only person you talk to even when you don’t want to talk to anyone. The first person that you want to share everything with. The person you want to start and end your day with. You two have this unique connection, that you’ve never had with anyone. You can read each other’s faces, have those silly inside jokes and you know exactly how to put each other out of a bad mood. When you’re with her, it feels like you’ve come home.
7. You find her attractive
Not that it’s not important to be physically attracted to your wife, because it is; but there should be more to it than that. You should feel an undeniable appeal when you look at her. It could simply be her smile, or the shine in her eyes, or how she makes you feel, or so many other things. Other might find these little things ordinary, but to you they make her nothing short of exceptional.
8. She can run things well
Around the house of course, and outside too if necessary. You need to know that she is someone who can be trusted with the responsibility of your house and at some point your kids as well. She doesn’t depend on you for everything. Not only that, she’s forgiving when you can’t do your part due to some reason.
9. She is all for becoming a better person
No one’s perfect and there’s always room for improvement. She understands that and tries to live by it. You can actually notice the positive changes in her. Moreover, she serves as an inspiration for you to do the same as well. A person, who accepts their shortcomings and works on them, is very rare to find. If you’ve found someone like that, don’t let her go.
10. She has a clear vision of what she wants
She not only knows what she wants from life, but also knows how to get it. You’ll never see her confused about the future. She has goals, for her life as an individual and for your relationship as well. And she’s not afraid to work for them.
11. She can speak for herself
She’s anything but timid. Not that she’d become cutthroat or turn everything into an argument, but if there’s something she doesn’t like, she won’t bear with it. You both get to have a say in your relationship. She won’t allow you to walk all over her and if something isn’t right, it’d need to be fixed.
Guys, is she the one?
So these are few of the definite signs you shouldn’t waste a minute in marrying her. There could be many more. If you’re married or about to get married, what was it about her that assured you that you were making the right decision? If you haven’t found someone yet, what is it that you’d want in your future wife? We’d love to know!