Most people believe that love can conquer all, and that the only thing you need in order to make your relationship successful is just pure and honest love. I would beg to differ! After 21 years of living and two long relationships, one thing I’m completely sure of is the fact that trust is the most essential component of a successful relationship. In its absence, you can end up feeling constantly worried and hurt.
If you don’t completely trust your partner, you end up wasting all your time worrying about where your partner is, who they’re with, and what they’re doing, and ultimately end up feeling psychotic. I’m pretty sure that’s not the kind of relationship you would ever sign up for.
Here are 6 reasons why trust is always more important than love:
1. You can only love a person truly if you trust them
Love is always built on trust and not the other way around. Being rational human beings, we tend to love the people we already trust. And if we enter a relationship without building its base around trust, it is bound to fail as soon as the hard times come.
2. Trust is used to control our emotions
We are all emotional beings. In most situations, we tend to place more emphasis on the means rather than the final end. We tend to engage in relationships that are meaningful, relationships that we can truly value.
And how do we decide in the start if a relationship will prove to be that way? We use trust! We use it to gauge the kind of relationship we have with others. And we use it to decide exactly how much of our own self we should give to others.
3. Trust is the building block of all relationships
Once we truly trust a person, once we find the comfort to open ourselves to them and to share all the deepest, darkest thoughts in our minds, that is the moment when a relationship truly becomes unbreakable.
4. Love can cloud your judgments but trust illuminates them
We always believe that love can be our one true savior in times of need. But the truth is, we’re usually too blinded by love to actually make sane judgments. We get too involved in trying to gain the acceptance, approval, and admiration of those we love. And we fail to realize the fact that love is suppressing our ability to reason.
This is where trust comes in. It helps you get back to the real reasons behind your relationship. It helps you realize whether the person standing in front of you is actually worth the effort. And it helps you distinguish between the people who you’ll have a lifelong connection with and the people who will eventually leave.
5. Trust conquers all
We’re all familiar with the phrase ‘Love conquers all’. But the truth is that trust is the one thing that can truly push us to believe that we can and we will conquer all obstacles. It holds everything together when all the things around you seem to be falling apart. It’s the glue that fills every gap and every difference you might have with your partner.
6. Trust is what makes you love again
When all is said and done, when you feel like life keeps pulling you to the ground, when you get your heart-broken a thousand times over, the only thing that can help you bring back the hope in your life is trust. It enables you to believe in something bigger and better than all the heart breaks. It helps you get yourself back on track in life. And it helps you get the motivation back to find your one true soul mate.
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