As we all know love is the sweetest thing in the world which money can’t buy, and also the most misunderstood quality/feelings/decision…would it then be a problem to get married or fall in love with a guy you are older than or fall in love with a lady that is older than you, and for the ladies, do you dispute that or have no problem with that? Would such relationship stay or would crumble?
Good day beautiful people.
Teejay: To be honest o. Age is just a number when it comes to love. However, everything should be done with moderacy. In my case I specifically set age limits above and below that I can date. Any higher and lower might result in problems for us both in the relationship. Okay… I set an age limit that serves as a boundary for me. Saves me the stress of unnecessary wahala, I can date a year older and five years younger. Any lower and I will feel like agbaya any higher and it will just turn to elder sis-younger bro.
Jude: So in a nut shell Teejay thinks there is noting wrong, but should b moderate giving his own age preference.. Nice one.
Katie: Sex n happiness is d sweetes thing.
Teejay: Happiness; yes, sex; no
Jude: So to my opinion, *Age* have noting to do with love, love work with feelings not numbers, love is not childish, love is matured at any point it time, it depends on the individual involved, and that is why it is just more than a feeling, but a decision, it involve respect, commitment, communication, kindness, just name it, and which drag me back to yesterday topic by *Michael*, and my pick was *communication*, now I am adding it to *Ademi* point, which she pointted out *COMMITMENT*. I have discovered that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline. Some time will come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you’re committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don’t see better people than the ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny sometimes? You think they don’t catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that, commitment and together with a great deal of communication,is greater than feelings. its the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realise that the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment and communication. On the long run in marriages, it’s not just love that keeps them together forever, it’s determination, communication and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it’s like building a career, It’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.
Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought.. And together with Almighty God guide, we would all walk in the right path.. Am sorry for the long typing, just get my point… Smiles…
Teejay: Jude has succinctly explained it all, I declare the topic closed 🔐.
Uleta: Age is just a number, It doesn’t really matter when it cums to love. Buh me I can’t date someone older than me.
Jude: Just as Teejay said, I love his boundary setting, I probably might fall in love with you before I know your age, so that going to be too late, so best deal, I would rather watch out on a Lady with good prediction, so I know she is not more than 2 years older than me, as long as the feelings was built then the decision comes it. Concerning some ppu’s opinion about women ageing quickly than men.. Yes it is scientifically proven dat women do appear to age faster Dan men
Due to d fact dat they loose collagen.. Well, d gud news is dat looks could be genetic in both male and female..a person could slow down d age process by eating healthy, avoid junks.. Exercise, eating fruits, less exposure to sunlight, sleep and rest well.. Take care of d skin with d right skin care products.. Bathing regularly and so.
on. If she is also younger, and refuse to apply good body aids, she would age more than her current age after child bearing…
CHRIS: Teejay, was right about honey being sweeter than love.
Love is not sweet. Love is sacrifice. What is sweet in sacrifice? Nothing. Love is courage. Mumu is pidgin for ignorance in Nigeria. And the antidote for ignorance is knowledge. Women are the perimbosis to a man therefore she circumscribes every area of his being accentuated by the fact that the close affinity between a man and woman from creation is reason women appear superior mystically. Jude doctored the topic but was caught by my tentacles along the systematics.
Love is a commitment. That is what it is in terms of its practical reality. Juxtaposing love with commitment with the latter prevalent to the former was just a syntax error of some sort. Love is commitment. Love has attributes; a long list of it. Age is a chronological life-meter. There is no similarity between the two. However, the decision to date someone younger or older is strictly personal. It isn’t an established natural or civilian law. It is choice, everyone should answer for themselves. Along all the thresholds of truth, age has no business with love or relationship. A relationship is an agreement between two people of mutual interest predicated on commitment. Therefore age is non-compliant with what relationships suggest. But individually, people can determine what these agreements should be. And it could be anything. Age shouldn’t be a determinant or prerequisite for relationships or love. The only restriction to age relationships of romantic inclinations is in respect to infantile immaturity or dating a minor. Smiles.
Jude: I love them older.
Ademi: I don’t see any reason not to date or marry someone younger Dan yhu if it is what you can cope with. Age is just number and u dating someone younger does not mean d younger one myt not die before you. Its just about level of understanding and the love you have for each other but the difference should not be too much.
Teejay: …. The younger one might not die before you…
Ademi: Ehn ehn na
Jude: That’s a a proverb from osun state.
Teejay: Makagini… Abeg o
CHRIS: At this juncture, I can’t even say which I prefer, older or younger cos its immaterial. Comprehension is what it is not age.
CHRIS: Or I’d say that the prevarications of life just set in. I’ve had girlfriends older by 10, 15, 4 years and younger by 12, 8, 2 years. Its no big deal as people mature differently.. It requires maturity for these things.
However, mid-life crisis which is often a state of extreme insecurity and confusion at some point in a persons life sets in as a result of changes in character templates to real life conformities, so discretion is advised or caution when choosing a partner because this changes affect rationale judgment and responsibility. It was on this premise that a school of thought suggested that a man should get serious with marital commitment at age 40 and a woman at age 30. Smiles. But this is just an opinion and not an established fact or faculty. I dislike these letters: bae! Its meaningless, not even fit to be a word. Just name it. I am not a conformist. What on earth is bae?
Ademi: BAE = before anione else
CHRIS: Mm. I see. Well, that was rhetoric as I had a faint clue to it but seriously, if it is a term of endearment, I’m not fascinated by it. Not a valid English word, used by retards, expressed by fools and sounds like a goat’s. No offence.
Ademi: U are entitle to ur own opinion Sha.
Selena: Jude u try o
Jude: My pleasure
CHRIS: Jude is a nice guy. It reflects in his thought pattern. Smiles.
Jude: Smiles, thanks Chris